Moving Forwards

Most people call for counseling when they are feeling stuck. Things are neither moving in a positive or negative direction.  It is at this very moment that 2 things must take place. You must be willing to let go of the thing that is keeping you stuck and at the same time put some faith into something completely unfamiliar. I like to use the metaphor of Tarzan.  He swings in the jungle from vine to vine and at any given moment he is holding a vine in one hand that supported him and he trusted, while in the other hand, he is holding a vine he never held before and is unfamiliar with. The only way for him to continue his journey forwards is to let go of the one that got him to that place and trust that something he never held before will support him in his journey.  People are tremendous creates of habit, both good and bad ones.  Change will only come from letting go of habits that you have become experts at and allowing yourself to do things differently and unfamiliar.  In essence, you must trust yourself and know that for change to take place, you cannot be an expert in something you never experienced before.   You must also be willing to put shame and guilt aside as the people who taught you these old behaviors are either people you loved or were a part of your upbringing.  Change can always happen, if you let it.

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